How to Survive a Divorce from a Narcissist
How to Survive a Divorce from a Narcissist
Unfortunately, surviving any divorce is challenging, but separating from a narcissist is particularly difficult. You must have a strategy.
Appreciate the narcissist is ‘in it to win it." While you will be well aware of the emotional impact, the narcissist will place little weight on whether and who may be harmed. Instead they tend to go forward with a scorched earth approach, leaving nothing to stand - even using their own children as pawns is not off limits. The narcissist tends to enjoy the fight to remain connected, to feel powerful, and they care little how long the process takes. They will refuse to settle and do that they can to run up your bill. They prefer to see you under bad circumstances than not at all. They will purpose to disparage, regardless of the truthfulness of that stated, believing they cannot be held accountable for the consequences of their actions.
What to do? - BE PREPARED. GET QUALIFIED HELP! Your attorney needs to be proactive, experienced and able to respond swiftly. Have a strategy. Talk to your lawyer and therapist. Avoid communication with the narcissist. Focus on protecting any children. Consider a Guardian ad Litem, a parenting coordinator, psychological evaluation, or other means to objectively identify the matters at issue. Stay true to the high road as in time the narcissist is exposed. CALL TODAY for your appointment with Debra Sutton, Board Certified in Marital and Family Law.
